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This groundbreaking book from the best-selling authors of Getting the Love You Want and coauthors of Giving the Love that Heals is the first to address the biggest unexplored issue facing couples today: Most of us are better at giving love than accepting it. We don't realize all the ways that our resistance to appreciation, praise, compliments, and accepting help from otheThis groundbreaking book from the best-selling authors of Getting the Love You Want and coauthors of Giving the Love that Heals is the first to address the biggest unexplored issue facing couples today: Most of us are better at giving love than accepting it. We don't realize all the ways that our resistance to appreciation, praise, compliments, and accepting help from others hurts us and cripples our relationships. Many partners learn how to give love, but many more undermine their relationships by for-getting something that is equally important -- learning to receive it. According to the authors, the root of the problem is the self-rejection that began in childhood, when our parents and caretakers unintentionally failed to nurture or directly rejected traits, characteristics, or im-pulses when we were children. We end up rejecting in ourselves whatever our caretakers ignored or rejected in the course of our childhoods. When we become adults, this makes it impossible to let in the love we want and need, even when our partners offer it. As a result, we dismiss compliments, minimize gestures of affection, and create obstacles to true intimacy. In this book, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, co-creators of Imago Relation-ship Therapy, offer a definitive guide to breaking the shackles of self-rejection and embracing the love our partners offer. Receiving Love is a very personal book for Drs. Hendrix and Hunt, and much of their own journey is the inspiration for it. Drawing on their renowned expertise, the wide clinical experience of hundreds of Imago therapists, and their own personal experience, the authors are able to offer detailed guidance on how to conquer the problems that come from self-rejection and embrace the gifts that are abundant in every person's life, if only we knew how to accept them. With its groundbreaking theory, challenging processes, and inspiring examples, this book holds the key to loving relationships that last....

Title : Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved
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ISBN : 9780743483704
Format Type : Paperback
Number of Pages : 320 Pages
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Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved Reviews

  • Ginger Smith
    2019-03-06 11:43

    I was kind of disappointed in this book. I felt like it was more of an advertisement for the Imago Relationship Therapy techniques that the authors teach than it was on how to open yourself up to receiving love. The bulk of the book was about three married couples who had to transform their “separate” beings into “connected” beings in order to build a more solid relationship full of trust, understanding, and open communication.Many of the concepts were not new to me: Couples working on increasing communication by mirroring, validating, and empathizing; I learned about these techniques a long time ago and have used them in almost all of my relationships. The latter, empathizing, was instrumental in my last relationship, especially because communication was sparse. What I did learn about receiving love is that it is difficult for some people to receive love or gifts because it reminds them of the things that they gave up as children or young adults because they were chastised or had a bad experience with it at the time. Receiving love or gifts recreates that hurtful experience all over again and it can remind them of what they don’t have. Also, many people feel like they don’t deserve the love or the gift. Another thing I learned is that the things we criticize our partners the most about are those things that we dislike in ourselves or things that are missing in our lives or that we set aside (probably from a traumatic experience as explained above). For example, I felt that my last partner was overly critical of me and the things I did, but now I’ve realized that I am the same way with others: I am very picky, I have high expectations of a partner and I like things done a certain way. The one story that was shared in the book that I found most valuable was from a guy who’s relationship did not last. After his relationship ended, he took the 3 things he liked most about his partner, which he felt had been missing from his life, and he brought them back into his life. He started dancing again, opened his art studio back up again, and took an impromptu trip to another country. In essence, he gave himself these “gifts” and he accepted them as such. The last part of the book talks about the exercises that you can do to better receive love and gifts. They tie in both the separate and connected selfs. I started this book while I was still in a relationship…sort of. I kept reading it even though I was no longer in a relationship. Although I have no relationship to apply it to at this time, I can use it to reevaluate my past relationship and use it as a tool for maintaining a successful next relationship – whether that is with another partner or with myself.

  • Anjie
    2019-02-24 10:36

    My Imago has been trying to dialogue with my family through mirroring, validating and empathizing but my Child is preparing for a tantrum and my Parent is about to let loose. All this hurting and projecting needs a lot of healing. Where did my adult go?

  • Kimberly
    2019-03-11 15:34

    A trite rehash of his previous bestseller, Hendrix seems to be grasping at thin air for enough substance to fill an entire book. The subject is one that warrants further research and one that we definitely need more literature on -but this is not the book to provide it.

  • Faiza Venzant
    2019-03-20 14:29

    I think the title to this book is somewhat deceiving. It has much more to do with looking at how you behave in current relationships based on the relationship you had with your parents. Was good to read as a couple for some of the conversation it invited but mostly was a disappointment. Theory was much too narrow, heterosexist and traditional for most of the couples I know today.

  • Mishna Wolff
    2019-03-04 11:42

    Yes, I do read these once in a while. And I particularly liked this book: both as a very insightful self help book and an interesting look into some interesting relationships. Nothing like reading about other peoples problems to make yours seem benign. I recommend this book to anyone who is in, or plans on having a relationship.

  • Kate Arms
    2019-02-28 12:29

    Ugh.Like all of Hendrix's books, there are a few good points in here, but surrounded by unhelpful anecdotes and exercises and a sense of smugness, and he misses some fundamental points about how to help smart people. Hendrix is a therapist and his "do as I say and I will fix you" attitude is unbearable.

  • Elisa Kay
    2019-03-11 15:17

    Some interesting concepts in this book. Are you a maximiser or a minimiser? What things from your childhood affect your relationships now? I think my boyfriend will kill me though if I mirrored what he said, empathise and sympathise. Definately lending it to a friend of mine, who needs self love just like I do.

  • Giedra
    2019-02-26 17:23

    Very hokily written, and exceedingly repetitive, but had some good concepts to think about. Much preferred another book I read at the same time that, in fact, referenced the concepts in this one, but in a much more accessible way (Lies at the Altar by Robin Smith).

  • SueAnn
    2019-03-22 10:23

    I'm listening to the audio version. These authors really hit the nail on the head on how we can look at our relationships and open up ourselves to receiving love. This is one of those books I will listen to more than once.

  • Mark Goodman
    2019-03-19 13:27

    Some interesting ideas but nothing very new or inspiring. Much of this was already said in Getting the Love You Need, their older book. Disappointing.

  • Almer Stoffer
    2019-03-24 13:21

    Deze zou iedereen moeten lezen

  • Tracy
    2019-03-24 18:29

    Excellent book, great for couples, individuals, and anyone interested in maintaining and having a positive relationship.

  • Bookworm LLC
    2019-03-10 17:23

    Receiving love is an amazing book. Really makes you look at yourself and within yourself and realize you are worth the love you are given.

  • Cathy
    2019-03-17 16:40

    Browsed rather than read but liked what I browsed

  • Kim
    2019-03-22 12:42

    Very helpful - especially for couples and even parents - it helps to avoid reacting to roles in past relationship today.

  • Cindy
    2019-03-08 16:36

    Receiving love is an amazing book. Really makes you look at yourself and within yourself and realize you are worth the love you are given.