The co-authors of Type Talk apply their "TYPEWATCHING" techniques to interpersonal relationships, offering charts, exercises, and lighthearted anecdotes to help readers "find" themselves and build relationships that last....
|Title||:||16 Ways to Love Your Lover|
|Number of Pages||:||270 Pages|
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16 Ways to Love Your Lover Reviews
A good take on Meyers Briggs and relationships. Both helpful and funny. Now if only I could get Greg to read it too!
Plenty of applicable material for all kinds of relationships
Co-authored by one of the co-authors of Personality Type and Religious Leadership. ILL makes it so easy to indulge one's idle curiosity...I appreciate that they caution against using Typewatching as the be-all-and-end-all.When they're introducing the Types -- giving you checklists to help you determine yours -- they frequently comment that you're likely to have some characteristics of each type; and at other times they talk about the fact that at different times in people's lives they'll manifest their Type differently (because there are lots of factors that affect the ways we are in the world). And yet, a lot of their Type talk seems really intense/broad stroke.Like: J's get anxious around spontaneity. I'm an ISTJ. Okay, yes, if someone suggests "hey let's go do this," I'm gonna want to do a quick check of the calendar to make sure that, for example, we aren't accidentally sacrificing other commitments, but the way that they talk about it comes across to me like J's need to take some serious time to integrate any new idea into their mental schedule/plan.They talk about the "opposites attract" thing and frame it as complementarity -- seeing in the other person that which one lacks -- which makes sense. (And they talk about the fact that it's often the very differences that we find appealing in our partner which are also the source of our frustration with them, which I think is helpful to keep in mind.)It's heteronormative. I mostly didn't find it oppressively so, but I recognize that may well be because I'm bisexual and so I can see myself in male-female couplings.The desire to think out loud in the moment is apparently an Extravert thing. I am sekritly an Extravert? ;)Frequently I do want to sit with things and mull before speaking/acting/whatever. But I also frequently want to talk things out (including getting other people's input). And the idea of this Introverts having an intense desire for privacy -- reminds me of a friend's ex but is really not my own m.o. "Making it all about me since 1983" is only partly a joke."Everyone should want to know ALL the true things" is basically my motto (though yes, DBT, I recognize that the "should" is one of many things that makes that statement problematic). I want to know what all is going on with everyone else, and I'm pretty okay with lots of people knowing lots of what's going on with me. I do have some discrection -- and there's some stuff I'm not proud of and thus don't share with many people -- but in general I am very pro- information-sharing.
I am an INFJ and there are some references in here regarding my type, and others, that I just don't agree with. I would say that I can relate to or agree with about 85% of what is written. I enjoyed the last half of the book much more than the first half and I would actually recommend this book to others, it was helpful and insightful. I think it's a good foundation and jumping point for effective communication in all types of relationships.
So far this book is not of interest or met my expectations. I stopped reading after a few chapters and skimmed through the rest.The appendix is good if you know your personality type already; which some of this is shared in their other books on Typetalking.
Myers-Briggs applied to relationships: simple as that. The writing was easy and the exercises took time well spent. Doing this "book club" style with one's partner is the way to go!
I only use it as a reference.
I have lent this book many times, and have always made sure I’ve gotten it back. It really helped me understand that things your partner isn’t wrong, it’s just different. Only available in hardcopy.